There is an important characteristic of the lower self of a man. When something good befalls on one; when he receives goodness and kindness from the people around him; when things go the way he wants them to go, in a way that would cheer him up and make him happy; he feels rather complacent. He believes that the beautiful things going on around him and the benevolence he receives are taking their sources from him. He thinks the reason why things go well for him and why course of events go the way he hoped them to go, is because he strives a lot and because he is a good person who makes a great effort in many subjects and because he acts reasonable and precautious. In other words, he is of the idea that he had earned all the good things befalling on him to the smallest detail.
However when the same person faces things that he doesn't want to face; when goodness and benevolence is not anymore offered to him by people around him; when things do not give the results he wants them to give; when the blessings in his life lessen and some difficulties and troubles arise; he would not think that "all those, again to the smallest detail, befall on him because he earned them all himself".
On the contrary, he believes that he did not deserve any of those things happening to him, he feels hard done-by and wronged. He even thinks that all these things befall on him because he has been too good towards everyone and thus he lives in the psychology of a person "being wronged".
Most of the time, a person living through these things would not stop to think: "Could there be something wrong with me? Could it be that I have some wrong beliefs and a wrong point of view? Do the things that befall on me have something to do with such wrong beliefs I have or with my morality? Would the goodness and beauties in my life be any different if I acted somehow different? Could it be that I have been experiencing all these because I earned them due to the flaws I have in my morality?"
Had he been thinking like this even for a very short time; and instead of looking for the problem in other details, had he sincerely censured himself; he would have realized the truth which in fact is very evident.
Allah revealed in the Qur'an that: "Any disaster that strikes you is through what your own hands have earned"
(Surat Ash-Shura: 30)
This verse gives a person the true point of view with which he could evaluate the things he is experiencing in a correct and sound manner. In another verse Allah informs us that; "Those who do good will have the best and more"
(Surah Yunus: 26). When a person keeps his heart pure and sincere; when he looks at every event in his life by searching the approval of Allah; as long as he thinks by the morality of the Qur'an and approach people only through this point of view stemming from the Qur'an; Allah would definitely "increase the beauties in such a person's life".
If he is harboring any evil in himself, if he does not think purely by the Qur'an and if he is adding a little bit of the moral values of ignorance in his approach, if he evaluates the incidents taking place not by the Qur'an but by the rules and value judgments of the ignorance, it is natural for the things that befall on him and the things he experiences to be just like that. Whatever he manifests spiritually would somehow reflect on his life.
It is very important not to forget this truth, which has been very explicitly revealed in the Qur'an. Man is very prone to think continuously well of himself; he adopts a
wrong point of view by thinking that he earned all the good things that befall on them but that he never deserved (Allah is beyond such claims) the troubles he experiences. To think on these verses of the Qur'an is in fact sufficient for him to see that these suggestions of his lower self are not true.
Allah is All-Compassionate and Most Merciful. His Mercy extends to all things. Allah is the One Who loves His servants infinitely, Who continuously bestows goodness and beauty on them through concealed and overt means. Every moment of a person's life is full of thousands of details in which he can see the love of Allah. And Allah is the Owner of the Infinite Justice. Allah shows His Mercy even on a person who has committed the worst evils on earth and shows him the ways to salvation. Allah creates new means every moment for man and inspires his conscience what is right for him, to abstain from doing wrong, feel remorse and desist.
One should see this infinite perfection in Allah's Character and submit himself to His Justice. If one has some adequacies in his life, he should search for the solution of this in his own morality. He should intend to love Allah even more; to live by the morality Allah commands more fastidiously; to erase even the smallest evil thoughts from his heart; to look into every incident through the Qur'anic point of view; and to live all his life with the accuracy Allah demands. Then, by the leave of Allah- as Allah promised- all the goods he had done, would be recompensed with even betters both in this world and in the Hereafter.
Anyone who acts rightly, male or female, being a mumin, We will give them a good life and We will recompense them according to the best of what they did. (Surat An-Nahl:97)